Could be the fight to achieve the most effective bringing women for their knees? Gets the fairer sex really become the weaker sex? Are we depressed or are we only experiencing what men have always known concerning pressure, but because we are women we are a force over for analysis ultimately ending in medication that calms “what ails us”? We ought to remember that people are still living in a predominately male operated society. Men have the natural instinct to want to “fix it” when anything they perceive as an issue arises. If our reaction to an issue is not to deal with it in the strict male fashion, we must be falling apart and need to be fixed by medication, counseling, or both. You are by now asking what do men and their view of our reactions to problems have regarding us being depressed. Well, I’ll tell you.
Women are not men. Regardless of how short you cut your own hair, Madam President, (sarcasm intended) or the fact that you wear pants will ever cause you to a man. But every day we are told that having the feelings and reactions related to women is wrong. There are a few popular theories going around that say women are making men gay by expecting them to own emotions which can be prevalent to women, but these same men will deny that telling women to subdue their emotions, or natural reactions, could have any mental impact on them.
Women are attempting to match a culture built and operated by men. We’ve certain attitudes about how precisely things should be. For too much time we have been told we are wrong and to do something about it. What exactly do we do? We put it in its place. Somewhere deep in our minds where we don’t dare go. Not knowing what direction to go with this particular unnatural act, our hearts and minds are bogged down. There’s no where for it to go. It does not have any outlet. This is labeled depression.
I suppose this sounds such as a “let’s get men” attack, however it isn’t meant to truly have a negative connotation to it. It is just the natural order of things. Beauty and the beast rose Women are smart humans and will learn how to adapt in this harsher world in order to survive and 1 day to thrive again. I’m not saying that people will not bring our personal form of problem solving to the dilemma, eventually. But for the time being we must discover a way of coping. Fortunately society has given us a solution by providing the monster a name, depression. And since it features a socially acceptable name, it’s okay to own this reaction called depression. I don’t think so!
Women must start to realize that because we may not manage to own it okay now (emphasis on the may) doesn’t make us any less “of a man” then our hairy counterparts. The female sector must never stop fighting for what’s rightfully theirs in equal pay and other rights. But at the same time frame, we must stop beating ourselves up over the fact that we haven’t arrived yet in the eyes of a culture that doesn’t know much better (at least for the moment) then to react in the status quo fashion.
Females have always been overachievers. You know our labels: perfect wife, great cook, and super mom. And now, let us place the added burden of breadwinner to the long list of “must dos” ;.Unfortunately as an overachiever means that people need certainly to “out do” to be called successful. And we will “out do”, won’t we? What’ll we get if we aren’t towards the top? We get to face that beast that goes by the name of depression. I’m the world’s worst with this one. In everything I do I ought to be the award winner, the best paid, the fastest runner, whatever. Talk about major self-appointed stresses! But seriously, does this not sound familiar for you?
But we have to discover a way to shrug off some of the anxiety and self-appointed stress. Slay the beast by means apart from anger or mood altering antidepressants. Why must I now add anger to the problems of emotional out cries? Now more than ever, women are venting their frustration through the use of anger. Road rage by women! Ever seen that one? Ever been on the receiving end of one particular fingers? I’m not coming near to suggesting that women own this 1 exclusively or even while an increased degree than men. But ask your mom how often she was stop, cussed out, and all those other glamorous actions we have come to see often, being initiated by a female when she was young. Perhaps you’d use the explanation of more female drivers. Might be, but doubt it. We’re programming ourselves to push, push, and push to have ahead. Our natural instinct is always to react emotionally and unfortunately this is coming out as anger in a lot of situations.
The ladies I talked with stated they truly thought that women are angrier than they certainly were in the past. The media has put so much pressure on us to be thinner, always look our best, and often with unreasonable expectations from what is known as excepted. Anorexia reaches an all time high among women. Health issues are not in the centre of the attack, (no pun intended) on women to be skinny. You are unattractive and not appropriate for a lifetime career, marrying, or any other number of outside your home social activities. If you have any excess weight you, you’d better do something about it. But once you can’t reach, for starters reason or another, these unreasonable goals, you become depressed.
Career goals, looks, and respect are but a some of the reasons women become depressed. My priority is for girls to discover a healthier, more positive way to deal with these socially inflicted stresses then becoming depressed, angry, and ultimately becoming hooked on antidepressants. We know that historically men have used alcohol as an effective way to cope. We see how that faired, don’t we? Let’s not follow their lead but learn from their mistakes. I’ll let you in on a little secret if you don’t tell men. We’re actually more powerful than they are, as a whole. Men will find this funny and hard to prove, but I’m 51 and have seen my share of tragedy. I’ve watched a lot of men drop the tubes when life smacks them down a few times but at the same time frame have seen many women still standing after life has punched them in the stomach many times. Don’t let them tell you that because they’re willing to visit war and die for a good cause makes them the stronger sex, either. There ain’t no such thing as a great war as a reason to die. Yes, I realize that men start these wars, however, you can’t use that against them. Crazy men are the people starting wars. I just don’t think they will use their patriotic duty as a cause to say they are stronger, but if you question them why they believe they are stronger this seems to be their answer. That’s all I’m saying.
I was on antidepressants for 5 years and I smoke 1 ½ packs of cigarettes a day. I could say I was to them because I, not my doctors, took myself off them. I wish to handle life through my own, personal thoughts and strengths. As for the cigarettes, I’ve currently cut right out ½ pack with the hope of quitting. Neither one of these simple actions has been easy. I will still “slap you into tomorrow” if I’m aggravated enough, so I started my own, personal home based business to keep me calmer during my transition. Whatever it takes. But my point is that I are becoming conscious that I’m stronger then this and want to be me, just me, and all the good or bad that accompany it.
Come on ladies, perform a self-inventory. Are your reactions to situations outrageous or are you coping in a confident manner? Focus on the way you react and don’t excuse it if it’s not exactly lady like. It’s bad for your quality of life or your own personal self-image. Once you screamed and yelled at that driver, achieved it would you any good? Bet not. Bet your blood pressure went through the roof. Why do you think more women are dying from coronary arrest and stroke then men are now actually? As we will have before, we must develop a constructive way to stop “the madness” ;.Our society is mean to each other. You notice it and you know it’s true. We’re on a road to self-destruction. Have a deep breath, exercise more, try some natural products, be spiritually involved, or go slower in your climb to the most effective, whatever it takes. Decelerate and smell the roses! You can certainly do it if you will just put a little effort into it. We’re overachievers but we are also over comers, do it now with all that produces you a female!